Not to mention the book is sexist and heteronormative Unfortunately, I did a little googling on the author AFTER the fact, and of course it is, because he s a Bible beater I wish I had known that before I wasted my 7 on the Kindle book I d really like to see this concept updated and brought into the 21st century, written in such a manner as to A actually include all walks of life, not just middle class straight white married couples, and B actually offer advice that can be applied to a relationship.
My mother in law gave me this book and I hesitated reading it because it sounds so cheesy and just take a look at the cover how dorky But I was stuck on vacation with nothing else to read so I reluctantly gave it a try In a nutshell, this book has changed my life Page after page I found myself wanting to yell, yes Thats exactly right If I could give this than five stars, I would Okay, maybe changed my life is a bit strong, but it has certainly enhanced my marriage like nothing else I ve ever read or done.
The advice this author gives is so profound and universal, it can be applied successfully to any deep relationship you have children, parents, close friends I just can t recommend it highly enough Every couple, whether newly together or old marrieds, could benefit from this book.
This book was recommended to my friend by her pastor to read before she got married My assumption was that it would be religious in tone and not very relevant to today s relationships I m so glad I was wrong This is one of those books I would suggest everyone read It is such a simple explanation of what can so often go wrong in relationships It s not about men vs women, it s about the way people receive love.
The basis is there are 5 Love Languages obviously And if you speak a different love language than your partner, then you may not feel loved The 5 Love Languages are Words of AffirmationQuality TimeReceiving GiftsActs of ServicePhysical TouchI m sure everyone responds to all of these in some way, but we all have a primary language There is a great quiz in the back that can help you quickly define yours By reading the book, I knew what mine was, but the survey pinpointed it to a T and helped me rank mine by importance, even better than I think I could have done on my own This book will help you in your current relationships of all kinds, not just romantic and any future relationships you ll have It really pinpoints how relationships can fall apart after the honeymoon period is over, even if you still love each other It helps you understand how to show your love for someone else in a way that they ll best receive it I could give a bunch of examples from the book, but I want you to read it So go get it from the library TODAY Then share with me what your primary language is I d love to know everyone s Mine is Words of Affirmation Almost never do two people fall in love on the same day, and almost never do they fall out of love on the same day Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.
This book is based on the premise that everyone has a love language Things others say or do that make one feel loved ,they are follows words of affirmation recieving gifts acts of service physical touch quality time.
Personally I want you to tell me how great I am words of affirmation while walking in the house with a collection of poetry for me receiving gifts , make a beeline for the trash that needs to be taken out acts of service , then come back in and read quietly next to me quality time before I ride you like the wild stallion that you are physical touch so where does that leave me Which love language am I This book was not helpful as indicated by the shelf it s on.
Chapman used many real life examples from his own marriage, and of couples that he had counselled across the years, to illustrate the concepts in his book and how they can be applied to address different marriage relationship issues and circumstances These are case studies help us to identify similarities and lessons for our own relationships.
In the book, he also offers 2 pages of additional ideas and suggestions for each of the 5 love languages, as well as separate love language profile surveys for husbands and wives to identify your primary love language If you enjoyed the ideas in this article, do get a copy of The 5 Love Languages from This was recommended by a friend of my wife, which proves part of the old adage A friend of thy wife, is thine enemy That s from the Bible or the Decameron or Archie Comics I think.
I ll do the whole would it kill you to read something positive with me for a change thing if I want something in return in order spend some time with my wife Plus, bonus, the audio book was relatively short.
I ve had to read a few scoops of self help crap literature over the years, so I m down with the lingo Annie Wilkes s How to Win Friends and Influence People I m OK Neurotic, OCD, manic depressive , You re OK Nymphomaniac, Daddy issues, Passive aggressive.
Untying my inner child from the radiator and letting him have ice cream with my toxic parents.
books that give you a thought for the day , you know, something cosmic and revelatory to think about and chew on for eternity or until you close the book Jeff, buddy, I m breathless with anticipation What are the five languages of love, already Well, as a way to work into that, fanatical and borderline crazy Goodreader, let me explain the good doctor s theory on the FIVE languages of love Basically, we all speak a primary language and we all have a language of love that we learned from mommy and daddy.
One of five languages of love.
Five Count em, Five What was that number again So, that number is five, right Stop dragging this out in order to post five gifs.
According to Dr Chapman, the five languages are Now, I m done.
1 Giving gifts If the last time you gave your wife flowers was when Nirvana was a thing, then this one isn t you.
2 Words of affirmation These don t include You re an idiot moron devil shrew succubus etc 3 Acts of Service or doing stuff for your loved one or something Helping my wife bury the hoochies that chase after our son qualifies here.
4 Quality time It s not me, me, me Maybe your wife, wants to hang with you and do stuff, like, I don t know, talk 5 Physical touch It s not only smexy times, but just being there, being present.
Note to wife Please treat every day like my birthday So, in a nutshell, recognize your love language and your spouse s love language and try to accommodate them in some small way.
If I ve saved your marriage, you re welcome or just send me a check Make it out to CASH.
Warning The doctor likes to work in the Christian stuff and this is strictly a hetero tome, so if the first is a turn off and you find the second limited, look for help elsewhere And like anything in this world that makes money, Chapman has written enough additional books on this subject to choke a Tijuana stage show donkey.
Don t get me wrong, I am all for good communication, respect and understanding how to make your spouse feel loved But when this misogynist flavored relationship guru doled out advice to a woman in a horrible marriage, I took issue The details of horror of the marriage were largely unsaid, other than it was given that the husband cursed and said he hated his wife This woman was very religious and clearly the idea of leaving her husband was at odds with her beliefs Since the husband had no interest in seeking marriage counseling, the author marriage counselor devised a unilateral plan he admitted didn t know would work The crux of the plan was for the wife to speak to her husband in his love language, and hopefully he would eventually he would reciprocate and the love tanks would start to refill This plan basically suggested, among other things, that the wife initiate sex with her husband as his love language was physical touch even though this idea did not appeal to the wife Kind of a take one for the team approach The author clearly said that this was her decision to do so Ok, so all this has the appearance of consenting adults and informed decisions, so where s the problem Katie Oh, I don t know, how about emotional manipulation of the vulnerable Call me cynical, but I picture an abused spouse view spoiler emotional or physical, it makes no difference to me hide spoiler 4.
5 starsI absolutely recommend this book to EVERYONE Whether you are married, dating, single, whatever The ideas and concepts in this book will benefit any relationship The idea of loving others the way they need to be loved might feel counterintuitive, but it something so essential to growing as a person and understanding what love really is.
I had always known about this book and the love languages, but this was the first time I actually read it Of course, as with any self help type of book, there were a few cheesy moments, which is why I docked it half a star, but overall it was a fantastic read Amazing E Book, The Five Love Languages How To Express Heartfelt Commitment To Your Mate By Gary Chapman This Is Very Good And Becomes The Main Topic To Read, The Readers Are Very Takjup And Always Take Inspiration From The Contents Of The Book The Five Love Languages How To Express Heartfelt Commitment To Your Mate, Essay By Gary Chapman Is Now On Our Website And You Can Download It By Register What Are You Waiting For Please read And Make A Refission For You A quick and valuable read to help you better understand how you and your partner best like to express and receive love Great for helping you see what you truly value in a partner and what your partner truly values in you.